Be positive, be yourself answer of all biting question

There are different kinds of people in this world. You might get in touch of people personally and professionally, few will make you feel higher and few might make you feel trapped :P I mean few people will be just as you are and few will be completely opposite to you and it is normal. You can not expect everyone to be like you. You have to mold yourself according to other somewhere somehow to make your and others' life beautiful. But sometimes everything seems to be wrong. You try your heart out make things fine, but it just get more and more worst and then the only option you can see can be take back step from the situation or create more space from the person. But sometimes the circumstances even doesn't allow you to do so. Then what can be the option? :P

Sometimes you know you are absolutely right, but somebody trying to prove you wrong in front of people important to you. You try to check the things inside you, you try to make all possible efforts to check is it you who is wrong? but after testing all possible fact from your own and others' point view still you find yourself right. Though you are right, but still try to compromise and keep on doing efforts to make things right. But at certain situation it just stop working, things start becoming worst. You are not kind of person who try to prove the innocence  to anyone, you are kind of person who believe in trust and truth and thinks Truth will come out itself, but the opponent go to everyone and start showing the pity side start gathering sympathy and show you guilty in front of people including the people important to you. It is possible that people will go with only what they see and hear and start believing the dramas going on around. And you just stand alone and guilty in eyes o everyone? Then what can you do?

Few people are blunt speak the thing as it is. Speak the truth which used to be bitter. And few people give everything sugar coated. They are sweet to everyone. They gain sympathy of everyone by showing their poor pity side and by projecting yourself as biggest villain of the earth. Though you are right, just because you are blunt and dislike to pamper anyone's ego and believe in showing mirror to everyone. Do not cry in front of people to gain their sympathy, do not believe in showing your weak side to anyone people will start thinking you are the only wrong person on the earth? Then what will you do?

Does it sounds like your own story? :) Hmm everyone thinks themselves are the only right in this universe so it doesn't matter. There is only once answer of every question I asked in above content is "Be positive, Be yourself". Do not change yourself for anything or anyone, specially if you are on side of truth, honesty, strength. If you get boycotted by anyone or everyone do not worry and think you are on right path because there is a saying in hindi "Sach ki rah pe akela hi chalana padata hai!" which means "On path of honesty/Truth you have to walk alone". And keep one thing in mind "Whatever happened will happened for good".

By the way, when I started writing this blog , I didn't had answer of these question nor had title of this blog. Writing or self assessment or talking to your best friend which is you yourself will give you answer of all questions.

Be positive, be yourself answer of all biting question :)

Now this is RJ Aashaka signing off for today. Good bye, good night, c u sabba kher catch u soon at same place :)

ShaktiPith in India - Ambaji holly Story Part 2

So have you enjoyed my past two legends or holly stories of Ambe ma? Today is time for third and last fable related to Ambaji – Gabbar. As per a mythological story, “Sati” daughter of Himalaya got married to God “Shiva” and Himalaya was unhappy with this marriage. Once Himalaya organized a Havan [Worship] and invited all God and Goddess except Shiva. Sati got ready to attend the event at his father's home. Shiva tried to convinced her to not to go there, but she still gone to be part of the holly event. Himalaya insulted his on daughter because of his anger against her wedding. He also insulted Shiva verbally in front od Sati. So Sati decided to give her life after getting humiliated by her on father and thus jumped into the flames of havan and died. When shiva seen the body of Sati, he was surrounded by so much of grief. He carried the dead body of Sati on his shoulder and started “Trandava Nrutya”. God Vishnu realized it will invite the and will destroy the earth. So he threw his Sudarshan chakra and cut the body of Sati in 108 pieces. Wherever the part of body of Sati fall, that place became “ShaktiPith” and that place is devotional by the humans. At Ambaji the heart of Sati fallen and that is why it is one of the ShaktiPith.

So this was the last mythological story of Ambaji. Apart from this there are many tourist places like Kailash Tekari which is also known as sunset point of Ambaji. Kumbhariya where temples of Jains are situated since ages, Koteshvar, gulf of Valmikiji who written “Ramayana” , Gupt Sarswati, nobody knows where is the end point of the water. And many more such places.

Story of Ambe MA, Gabbar, Gujarat: Ambaji holly Story Part 2

In my previous post, I talked about the story of Ambe ma and Danta's king. Today I will share the legend of swing [julo] of Ma Ambe. Ma Ambe used to go to mountains for cow grazing. She used to start swinging on a swign and her cows wander here and there for grass with other cows of a cow boy. It was daily routine. Once that flockman seen those stranger cows with her own cows and decided to follow her.

When cows of Ambe Ma was returning back to her, as per his decision neatherd followed those cows and reached to Ambe ma. He asked for wages for grazing her cow. She smiled at him and given him dustpan with oats. Cow boys walk away with that and got furious on this. So he just threw the oats and went back to his home.

When he reached his home, he talk about this to his wife. When her wife checked his scarf she was astonished. There was 4-5 pearls and Diamonds. Four – Five oats which he threw away was stuck to his scarf and converted into earls and diamonds. He just realized her mistake and repentance a lot on his stupidity. He just ran back to the place he met Ambe Ma, Wandered near by places but he lost everything he got. And never got anything back.

If you climb the mountain Gabbar, There will be a place called “Ma no Julo” means swing of Goddess. There is an idol of Ambe ma in swing. And as per the legend it is the same place where she was swinging. As per devotees, people say still if you keep your ear there on that rock where swing is places and if you have pure heart and trust on Goddess, you can hear the voice – noise of swinging swing. So if you go to the gabber, you can try this.

The moral of the story which we can use in real life is nothing and no one is of less importance. Always value what you get. If you devalue it and loose it with your arrogance, time will teach you the real worth of it and then nothing will be left for you except remorse, penitence, contrition...  

Holly Story of Ambaji, Aarasur

Holly Story of Amabaji Gujarat

I am a religious person as you guys already know. I visited one of the very famous temple of Gujarat, namely, Ambaji. Goddess Amba's temple is there. Ma Amba has many names like Ambika, Amba, Ambe-Gauri. She is the most beautiful goddess according to Hindu mythology. The place I visited is known as Ambaji, but originally the name of that village is “Aarasur”. Today, I would like to share the mythological story attached with that place and Ambe Ma. There are three different stories attached with it, so I will share it in three different posts.

Today I will talk about the legend of Ma Ambe and king of Danta. As per the mythology, Ma Ambe resides at Aarasur and used to play Garba [Gujarati folk dance] there. There was a king who resides at Danta [Pronounced as Daanta] Village in his palace and rule Aarasur as well. Once he seen a beautiful girl playing Garbas and just got allured towards her with her mesmerizing beauty. She asked to come to him and be his queen. Ambe ma agreed upon, but put a condition one condition. As per that, the she will walk behind the king and king is not suppose to look back in any circumstances. He has to put blind trust on her that she is coming behind. King agreed upon and both of them start moving towards king's palace at Danta village. After walking some miles, Ambe ma stopped the sound of her anklet. So the king felt something suspicious. He thought that girl must be escaped and not coming behind. So he turned back to check weather she is coming or not and he lost the condition. At a vary moment, earth get split and Ma Ambe het in to the earth and fissure seales behind her. After that Danta and Aarasur also split into two different villages.

Still there is an Arasaur chawk in main temple at Aarasur – Ambaji where she was playing Garba. And devotees plays Garba in the evening called “Aanad no Garbo”. If you climb the Gabbar mountain there, still there is a place where Ma Ambe got in to the earth. There is an old people tree known as “Paras Peepadi” where married woman tie their bangles and pray for long life of their husbands. As per the fable, the gap where Ambe ma get into earth was till as high as the Mountain Gabbar. As the mountain itself get split caused in split of earth and Ma ambe get into the earth.

The moral of the story can be have faith. Have trust on people and thing you have. If you will suspect on that you might loose them forever.

Random Incident and Thoughts in AMTS

Even after these many years I still travel in AMTS bus. Yesterday evening I was going home from office in a bus. A girl was sitting besides me at window sit. I was looking at the running Ahmedabad from window and accidentally I read an sms in that girl's cell phone. Of course, I know it's bad manners. It's really bad manners, but it wasn't intentional and I never read nor support such practice of reading private stuff of anyone intentionally. Now coming back to the topic, rather than talking about good or bad manners stuff. The SMS was “I Miss You.” As and when, girl read that message she started calling on same number again and again, but the next person was just not answering the call and every time call gets disconnected, and the girl keep calling back.

And I started thinking about different stuffs related to same situation like she was sitting so calmly, suddenly SMS come now she became restless. I shouldn't be judgmental who can be on next side of phone, but whoever is at the next side shouldn't message her. If you are missing someone and you know that person might not be pleased with your expression of missing, then why to bother anyone? And, if you are really missing, then why are you not answering the call? I mean if you have started a talk, then just take it further and if you just do not want to discuss the why the hell do you start a conversation? I have also met such people who just start an idiotic topic and we start confronting or get eager to know more they just say “leave it. I don't want to talk on this.” In such situations, I feel completely pissed off. I used to say like if you were really not interested to finish the topic, then why the hell did you started?In past, I have also fought on such situation with many of friends and family. But now I have became bit conscious with these kind of people. The are just attention seekers and that's also may be unintentionally. Because they do not do anything with intention, but the put hand on paining vain just to actively involve you in an idiotic conversation which used to make you feel to bang your head in a wall. I have banged it often in past But with experience I have learned the best way to deal with such people is just ignore and do not give any kind of importance to them. If some say, [verbally or by gesture] “let it be, I just don't wanna talk on this.” The best ever reply can be “Okay.” Try this out and the next person will tell you the whole story one by one even if you are not interested to listen

Now coming back to original story, when I was thinking all these in between one more SMS was received by the girl “sorry.” But girl keep on calling and finally the next person answered the call, and girl just said like this, “What is this? What do you mean by mistake? Every time you make same mistake? Next time don't say this even in mistake.” Cell phone hung up. And, I exclaimed “wow! My queen of battle. My tigress.” Every girl must learn this thing. Don't think like let it be or what can I do? If you are not liking something just raise your voice against it. If you will be quite with thinking it will be ok with time then you are making a big mistake because people used to take “silence as Yes.” So Girls, be brave and start taking your stand.
Well I am also like that, I used to raise my voice against something pinching my soul, no matters, who is next to me. I do take stand for the one I think is right at the moment. If I am wrong I also do have guts to accept my mistake, apologies and take initiative to correct it. Everyone must think and act so.

Ok it's again too long post so I think time to say bye bye for now. I will catch you later soon hopefully. This is R J Aashaka signing of for now C U Sabba kher. And as Diwali is at corner “Happy Diwali”

Why not Writing so Frequent?

Hey there,

It's Ash again here. Yeah I'm not frequent poster as I was before but what to do? I used to have to many things in to do list. Apart from that there are too many topics so I used to think like what to write and what to not? So just can't decide the topic to write on. sometimes also feel to share many things but the past few years taught me to "be a closed book, as people never value open books" and in past where I was writing here, I thought no-one is reading it except few selected friends & as per the length of my posts, they might even don't dare to read my posts but then Google told me that there are many visitors who are reading your posts. I felt like what to share what to not :)

Sometimes I feel like write whatever I want to as I was doing before but then I remember the time which says out of 10 people who are asking you about you or your story. 7 are just curious to know your story, 2 want to gossip about it and hardly 1 person cares about it. So better to be a closed book rather than being an open book which people just tear. So I just drop an idea of writing everything :P

At the same time the traffic stat here shows the people who visits & read my blog actually don't know me so whatever I write I will be an anonymous girl. So even if they meet me someday down the street, they just never get to know it's me - the girl whose blogs they used to read ;) :D But what if someone who knows me will read this? Nothing in today's word people neither understand words nor silence, they just understand what they want to so never mind who is reading what? And aivey  I am too unpredictable, even i can't predict me and my mood tomorrow :) so why to worry about anyone else so write what I like to because ITS MY PLACE :P :D

So as you can see years & time just flew away but m still as it is a girl next door who still likes to play with kids, who like to sing out of her heart, who has been practical after experience of life but still tears rolls out sometimes on emotional scenes [and i wonder i know its just a movie y my eyes r wet?] I like to work seriously and i like to just lost in my dreams & imaginations. I like to plan surprises and speak what i feel but bit carefully as I learnt that if u like or love someone tell them straight as expression of love is very important but if u dislike or hate someone just don't tell that to even yourself because disliking creates pain and u know what my motto is be happy and try to make others happy :)

I think written too much for today. funny thing is i came to write about something else and written something else :D In between a friend talked with me & planned awesome surprise for another friend. Feeling excited as I just love to plan surprises :)

Ok bye for now will come soon with something new at same place. Till then be happy & try to make others happy. good night. good bye c u sabba kher. this is R J Aashaka signing off.

Navaratri - Holly & Most famous Festival of Gujaraties

Hi there,

We Indians are found of festivals. So we used to have many festivals. Few are national and few are state wise. By today Navaratri festival is started. This festival is of 10 days. Yes you have read right words. 10 days long festival it is. And you can say it's festival of night. :) Basically Navartri belongs to Gujarat. Gujarat is state of India. Navaratri is also known as "Norata".

Nav Durga

Basically in Navaratri people used to devote their prayers and devotion to 9 forms of ma Durga, namely, Ma Shailputri, Ma Brahmacharini, Ma Chandraghanta, Ma kushmadha, Ma Skandhmata, Ma Katyani, Ma Kalratri, Ma Mahagauri, Ma Sidhdatri. MAny of you might belongs to India but never heard these names. So if you want to confirm or read then you can check a hollybook, namely, "ChandiPath", which has mentioned names of all these Goddesses and the holly stories connected with each Goddess. I don't know is it available or not in English. But Gujarati and Hindi versions are there. As per the belief, it says in these 9 days it is good to read "Chandipath" and few people and few writers also say that if you devote Goddess and read Chandipath in proper way you can get some superstitious powers. [Though there is no proofs on this and i also don't believe in it :) ] People also says that during these 9 days you can win hearty of Goddess and get whatever you want. You can show your devotion by meditation, reading holly books, singing  & playing garba of Goddess. :)

Holly Story of Navaratri:
There are many holly stories are related to Navaratri. But I will mention 2 most famous. 1 is of ma Durga. As per belief there was a devil and Ma Durga fought with her for 9 days and and 9 nights and then killed  her. These 9 days are known as "Navaratri" so in devotion of ma Durga people play Garba and celebrate victory of Ma Durga.

Ravan Dahan

1 more very famous belief is that these 9 days are those 9 days when God Shri Ram fought with devil Ravan to get his wife Mata Sita back and get this earth out of atrocity of Ravan. And on 10th day he won the battle and killed Ravan. So on 10th day known as "Dashera" people of India burn the statue of Ravana.That is known as "Ravan Dahan". The victory of good over bad :)

Few people have fast in Navaratri. My mom was not drinking water or having food during these 9 days when I was kid. But as I grown up, for her health I force her to have water and also dinner. But she still keep fasts.

In older time people used to get together in evening time. Sing aarti "devotional song" for Goddess and then play garaba which is pure devotion. Those garabas were known as sheri garaba means street garaba. But now people changed :) Now the culture of sheri garaba is almost lost or I would say died. Now people goes to party plots. Means a big ground kind of place where the play garba [form of dance] on rhythm of  big orchestra and singers. Singers usually sing silly bollywood movie songs rather than actual cultural garba. and people usually dance in different form of garbas. People actually take coaching for Garba playing before norata. People charge to teach it. [how sad]. Now most of the people play garba just like they want to dance. They play it to win some prices. Almost the essence of  devotion is lost :( In older time people used to wear traditional Gujarati clothes which is known as "Chaniyacholi" for female & "Kediyu" for male in regular days also i guess.  In navaratri they used to wear more fancy traditional gujarati clothes, But now, tradition put aside and people started enforced fasion in it. they used to wear jeans, tops extra in normal days. And just for sake of fashion they waste so much of money in buying chaniya cholies and kediyas which they are going to wear just for 9 nights. Even in that fashion get in so there are sleeveless and ... kind of chaniyacholies. Well everyone has their own choice of course. It's their call. But still at few corners of Gujarat people are there who still play garaba for mataji "Goddess" it's not for dance or fashion. It is still for devotion. And I am proud that I belongs to that community where we belongs to such way of devotion :) Still there are places where people celebrate Norata in old traditional way without bollywood song and big orchestra. They play garaba on rytham of "Dhol" and believe me it is real fun to play garba on devotional Goddess garba songs and rytham of Dhol. There are few villages where circles of male and female are separate. Not because they are orthodox but because they find it as part of our rich cukture. respecting each othe. It's not restriction but it is modesty :)

What is Garba?
Now for those who don't know what is Garba. Garba is kind of dance. You can say one of the most famous folk dance of Gujarat and each Gujarati knows it. In any celebration of a Gujarati weather it is a groom procession or baby shower or birthday celebration or whatever real Gujarati will play garba. Gujaraties can play garaba on any tune on any song because we used to find beats of Garba in any music :D There are types of Garbas like be tali [2 claps], tran tali [3 claps], dodhiyu, ras, tetudo, hinch, amd so many. I can't write in words what does that mean or how to play :) You have to visit Gujarat to see & experience that. Traditionally people used to make a circle and as per the beat of Dhol [musical instrument] play any 1 form of a Garba.

Playing Garba on Dhol has much more real fun than playing it on noisy orchestra. May be many people wont agree on me but that's ok :) When I was younger, studyinh in school and college I used to play garba for whole night. We have played garba since 10- 11 PM to 4 - 5 am everyday. Then next day also go for class. I never bunked any :) Sometimes skin of my feet just get peeled. Even gravels just hurt badly and sometimes it start bleeding but the passion of Garba was so much I just play in & on. I have sung Garbas & I have danced on Garbas :) But now as life became bit busy and also don't have any company for laying garba so not going to play since few years in Navaratri. But the passion is still there as being Gujarati & will be there always :) I used to satisfy my passion in wedding & other celebrations by playing garba there :) And now Garba is so very famous it used to get played not only in other states of India but also in abroad countries. :) :)

Well I think I have just written too much and get almost all information on Navaratri & Garba is out. So Play garba for devotion this time & Happy Navaratri to all of you. Jay Mata di..

This is R J Aashaka signing off for today will come back soon with more talks at same place till then c u sabba kher, chau :) ;)